Friday, June 17, 2016
I noticed that those comments weren't necessarily made to ask for advice but more of a telling of their story, of their wounds, of their victimhood. Loving mindful people reached out and said loving things and gave wonderful advice, but still they clung to their story, to their wounds, to their victimhood. I understand. There have been times in my life when I've argued for my victimhood without even realizing I was doing it. There were many times I argued for my stories, identified with my wounds, I didn't know there was another way. I would tell the story of how I wasn't lovable because no man ever stayed in my life. In active addiction I told myself the story that there was no way out, there was no hope, addiction was how I would spend the rest of my life. I would tell the story of how I couldn't pursue my dreams because I was too busy being there for everyone else and they needed me. I would tell the story of how everyone in my life would be better off if I wasn't in it. And then I got clean and sober and began to heal.
Sometimes we've told the story so many times, for so long, that we aren't even aware that we are doing it. Everytime we tell the story of our wounds, of how things never work out, of how this certain thing always happens to me, we breathe life into those stories and those wounds. Everytime we tell them with the emotion that comes along with them, we empower our stories and our wounds and we disempower ourselves.
So, my question is, what is your story? If you feel stuck, if you feel like you're struggling, if you feel like a certain area of your life isn't working out the way you'd like it to...what is the story you are telling about it? Write it down and read it out loud to yourself. Write down the story of how you want your life to be. Compare the two and ask yourself: Am I living from my story? Am I living from my wounds? Am I dragging my past into my present and reacting to current situations from past stories and wounds? Am I living from my Soul? Am I living from my wisdom?
Are you willing to let go of your story and your wounds? Are you willing to entertain the possibility of healing, of a better story, of a better life? Yes, it can be scary to let go of what has become so familiar to you, I understand that. And I'm not at all saying it will be easy or that it will happen overnight. What I am saying is that healing is a choice and the best and only place to start is from exactly where you are. You have the power within you to make the choice to heal. Any inner wound can be healed and no one is a hopeless case.
When you make the choice to heal you begin the process of calling your power back from all of those stories and all of those wounds that you've given your power to your whole life. I can tell you from experience that as you dig into yourself and begin to heal, you will find treasure. As you feel your emotions, as you process, as you work through your wounds and bring healing light to them, as you change your stories, those wounds and those stories transform into wisdom. And the best part is that if you do the healing work you begin to feel better and better. You find a peace within you that you didn't know existed.
Healing is possible for everyone, I believe that to the core of my being. No one is hopeless. You can choose healing, you have the power.
Sending you all love and light,